Hugh Halter
A Few thoughts on Marriage
by Hugh Halter on March 22nd, 2013

Preparing to perform a wedding for two very special friends, Dave & Julie. As I worked over my notes and watched the sun come up, I couldn't help but drop a tear or two on my desk. Marriage is an epic mystery that screams of God's truth. 

Church, why do you fight so hard against those who take positions on marriage or civil unions that appear to contradict this mystery? Why do you fear man's attempt to rename or reconfigure this thing called marriage? With or without a fight, it is highly likely that in all 50 states, marriage will no longer require a pastor to perform it and will be granted freely by humans to humans. 

Here's the good news: No matter how we (heterosexuals/homosexuals) defile the INSTITUTION of marriage through our sinful human condition, the ORDINANCE of marriage can and never will be defiled. God thought it up, God alone holds up his own design for a man to leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife, and they shall become one flesh." Marriage between a man and a woman is safe because it is a spiritual mystery that God sees, ordains, and blesses. 

We defile marriage daily as we speak harshly to our spouses, embitter our children, log onto porno sites, neglect placing our spouses as the most important focus of our lives. We divorce, remarry, and do it all over again, as Christians as much as non-Christians do. We screw it up hourly, yet God does not wring His hands, throw His arms in the air and declare marriage a wasted design or waste of time. Marriage under the hand of God is safe for eternity because He alone designed it. May we all work towards His design but receive grace when we fall short. 

Hugh Halter

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Esther - March 22nd, 2013 at 5:49 PM
Time to worry about our own marriages, and let God deal with everyone else's. Although I need to let God deal with me and mine as well....
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